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Learn To Let Go Of The Past

Learn To Let Go Of The Past
Learn To Let Go Of The Past


People tend to get so wrapped up in their past that moving forward is a daunting task. A mentor once said, “You need to be proud of yourself to be proud of somebody else .” Truer words were never spoken. It’s painful to one day find yourself alone and realize this when it’s too late.

Forget It

The way a person deals with life in the present is a result of the life they once led in the past. This applies to relationships. If you find yourself constantly going from one boyfriend/girlfriend to another, then it is likely that you are going about relationships all wrong. Most people who do not succeed in relationships are the ones who still cling to their past.

Let me give you an example. You meet a person you have chemistry with. You two start dating and decide to have a relationship. Once in a real relationship, you start getting scared that what happened in your past will happen again. You might have been cheated on or lied to or was once abused. For no apparent reason, none of that was given to you by the person you’re in a relationship now, you start having doubts. You start closing yourself off and putting up walls. You stop communicating.

This is the beginning of the end. You will slowly see the signs of your partner losing interest. The next thing you know, he/she is out the door.

The lesson here is simple :

Stop carrying around all of that old baggage. It is unnecessary.

Stop with all of the regrets. Stop overthinking all the pain you’ve had in the past. There’s a reason why it’s called the past. Do not let it affect the present nor the future. Forgive yourself. Forgive the people who once hurt you. You can’t ever move on if you always feel that you will get hurt again.

Love is such a beautiful feeling. Missing out on it because you cannot let go of what once was is such a shame. It’s okay to remember the bad and the good of the past but it’s not okay to still be bringing all of it with you. Acknowledge that you got hurt or that you hurt someone before. Accept it. There are no thanks to undoing what has already been done.

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So instead of holding on to that, release it. Take the time to work on yourself. Grieve if you have to. Cry if you need to. Get mad and lash out.

If it's to be done, then roll in the hay. Release all of the negativity that is weighing you down. Release it into the air and bid it good riddance. Allow yourself all of this because you deserve it. Everyone deserves to be happy. You and your partner included. If you are not happy with yourself, then you won’t be happy in the company of anyone else.

Remember, you are where you’re at now because that’s where you’re supposed to be. Looking back to the past is useless. Let go!

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